Warren’s Singapore

How to get to know the Indian women in Singapore

By: Warren Carter

I have many people ask me how to get to know the Indian girls of Singapore? Like I would know? Well after my eight years of being here maybe I can shed some light on this subject for everyone. Like all my other writing I am speaking generally and on the whole, so this will not apply to everyone.

First thing you have to realize and come to grips with is the fact that you are in Singapore and not India, while the girls here are of Indian decent that are still Singaporeans. With that in mind will share what I have learned.

First off most of the Indian girls you see out clubbing are with other Indian girls and or male friends. This is the circle you need to get into to meet the girls. If you are not a friend chances of you dating one are slim to none. So what we are talking about is a friendly relationship first.

How to get to know the Indian girls in Singapore

I have many people ask me how to get to know the India girls of Singapore? Like I would know? Well after my eight years of being here maybe I can shed some light on this subject for everyone. Like all my other writing I am speaking generally and on the whole, so this will not apply to everyone.

First thing you have to realize and come to grips with is the fact that you are in Singapore and not India, while the girls here are of Indian decent that are still Singaporeans. With that in mind will share what I have learned.

First: The Indian girls you see out clubbing are with other Indian girls and or male friends. This is the circle you need to get into to meet the girls. If you are not a friend chances of you dating one are slim to none. So what we are talking about is a friendly relationship first.

Second: She has to fully trust you and the 2 of you have to have a connection of some type. So time is required, lots of time. Are you accepted by her friends? This could have an impact too. If you don’t fit in to the group of friends you are out and it ends there.

Third: Trying to approach her in club most likely will not get you too far since they don’t take kindly to this kind of forward approach. Best thing you could do, if you are able to get close to her is to introduce your self and that you noticed her and maybe, just maybe, you’ll be able to exchange phone numbers or she may just take yours and leave you waiting for her to call you. But again we return to the time factor and building stages.

These girls are very family orientated and to some point career minded. I know several good looking Indian ladies that are still single and don’t have boyfriends either so this could be more common then you might thing since each of these ladies is above 35 years old.

You need to build a comfort zone for them, sure you can joke around if you work with them and they are a lot of fun to work with too. From that point because you have a working relationship you can move to a drink after work, tell her to invite a friend along too. This show your intentions are just to have a drink and relax after work. The good side is that you get to meet some of her friends to and some of them may appeal to you more so it works both ways and it brinks you closer to the circle of friends you need to join in to. From there you can move to dinners, movies and other safe events.

Then maybe one night you may find yourself rolling in the sheets with her.

Forth item: If you meet a Indian girl in the club and she is very open to you she may be a hooker or really dead drunk. Either way you get what you want right? But at the same time keep in mind that women are more independent now and she could be someone who is not shy in very confident with herself and just wants to meet to you. She will let her intentions known if there is in the first group so best to let her take the lead in that area.

But this just my opinion and I have been wrong before.

Thanks Nita for the input on the story (Jan 14 09)