Sex and Dating

By: Warren E Carter

12 April 2006

Before you read this article understand that is from my own experience while dating and my own thought on the whole scene. I understand that this may really upset some people but that is ok! This is just my opinion on the subject of dating and does not apply to anyone but me and what I feel. So if you think you could be in any way offended by what I am going to say just move to another page of the site.

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When I was looking for a girl friend I spent a lot of times in the clubs and other popular places to meet women like many other guys did. Now unlike many of the other guys out there I didn’t have the perfect pick up line and was I would say way behind the power curve in learning on how to meet women in clubs. Now when I was over seas it was a different story, can’t really say why but during my deployments I was a different person. Maybe because I didn’t have to deal with the American women’s bull shit. but seeing how that is were I was I had to deal with it.

So I would go to a club or bar to see if I could meet some one and get things going. One thing to understand about me is that I grew up in the bar of Guam when I was 21 (the legal drinking age in the states) which had a drinking age of if you can sit at the bar and pay you could drink, so things where a lot different there. The girls had a different attitude and where a lot easier to talk to then the ones back one. Now maybe this was due to the fact that I was in the military and had a shit load of money all the time on me, girls like that!!

So here I am 21 years old over seas hitting the clubs where other military people hung out at since back in 1980 that was all that was in Guam except for Japanese students on vacation. Now during that time frame Guam had about 100,000 Marines stationed there. The main road leading to town which was call Marine Drive I guess from World War 2 and retaking of the island was over 5 five miles long and had nothing but bar, restaurants and massage parlors on it with most of the girls working in the clubs and massage parlors being from Vietnam, Korea, Japan or Taiwan, so all the club where pretty happening each and every night of the week. You could find American girls working in Guam on contracts in the clubs and massage parlors also so if you wanted to visit them you could do that also. Needless to say Guam in 1980 was one of the places you wanted to be if you were in the military. I would tell people it was just one step behind the Philippines islands and Bangkok.

Ok so now you know about Guam and how it was back in the day!

Dating: ok, I would hit a clubs in Guam talk to a few girls buy them drinks and try my luck. One club we would hit was the Gecko Club at the Naval Communications Station (NCS) or the Enlisted Club at Anderson Air Force Base. On more then one night I care to remember I got so fucked up I knew I couldn’t get it up with a crane if I tried, guess I want much of a drinker then! So the next day I would survey the damage so see how much I spent! Holly shit!! All that gone and not even a blow job, what the fuck??? Well it didn’t take me long to realize what the fuck was going on so I wised up.

1. I wasn’t there looking for the love of my life.
2. I just wanted a girl to hang with
3. I wasn’t a good drinker
4. The girl just wanted drinks for free (who doesn’t)
5. And last but most important I just wanted to get laid

So after looking what been happening I came to realize it was cheaper to just get hooker. So I started hitting the massage parlors after being out with my buddies. During that time it was US$35 for sex and massage for 30 to 45 minutes. Most of the girls were from Korea and gave god damn great service. My first time was with a Black American girl named Chocolate, and god damn she was the shit too. So I left the massage parlor a very happy man. Now the down side was that I had been out with my friends I was a bit fucked up when I hit the parlors so my abilities were not all that they could have been but being 21 I did just find.

After my tour in Guam I returned to states for a shot spell. Ok back to the bar scene and buying drinks, ok maybe I am just fucking lazy when it came to meeting girls, but over a really short time frame I gave up on that. Now don’t get me wrong I always was looking for a steady girl friend and I found more then my share but at a cost you understand! All of the girl friends I had in the states I never broke it off with any of them, except one. All the other left me, but hey that is ok I was gone so much what’s a girl to do? So I can’t blame them for that.

Ok so you read this much and are wonder where I am going with this, right?

Well here it is!

If you are just looking for a girl for the night forget about the night clubs because they are a waste of time! When you think (which is what you need to do) they are waste of your time and money. Why go to a club and spend big money entrance fees on drinks for the girl you just met hoping things will work out in your favor? Now I know a lot of guys do well in the clubs but most don’t, so these are guys I am talking to! Clubbing is an attitude, and if you have the right attitude you’ll do fine in a club with the girl. If not you’ll be shot down over and over again. Something else to remember too, the girls know before they left homes if they were going to let them selves get picked up or not. How many times have you been at a club at closing time and saw a lot great looking girls going home with their girl friends all drunk? More times then I bet you care to remember. The women know that the guys will buy them drinks all night long hoping for the chance to get some ass from her and she knows this, they are not stupid guys and when it comes to clubbing the girls are a lot smarter than we are, ok?

If you know you are horny as hell and need to get laid just go do it then join your friends later and enjoy your night. When you hit the club you will be in most relaxed attitude since you just got yours and will deal with the women around you differently. Why? Because you just got laid and are not looking for sex now so you really don’t give fuck what she thinks or says. Why buy her drinks? You got yours, right? You’re a happy man now still thinking about the girl you just left and if you have enough at the end of the evening you may want to go see her again. Hey, I have been there and done that, so don’t bullshit me ok!!

It’s cheaper, it easier and guarantied to be a good time. When you think about ho much time, energy and cash you spend on trying to pick up a girl in a club it is cheaper just to get hooker for the night. Unless you are looking for “Ms Right” well then you need to go on the search and that is totally different story.

Most guys that meet their future spouse’s don’t meet them in bar in the fist place. On rare occasions it happens but I would venture to say they don’t they didn’t have sex on their first date.

I know some guys are too proud to ever pay for sex, well at least directly but they will do it indirectly won’t they, yep we’re talking about the new designer cloths to look cool, entrance fees, drinks and dinners. Shit, for a pair of Levies jeans here in Singapore you can get laid two times in Geylang had still have money left over for a beer or two with your friends, so what the fuck! If it is just sex you want then keep to that, if you just want to party with friends and meet people have fun doing that too. If you go with the latter in mind I am will bet you’ll have much more luck with the ladies by not looking for sex and will be more of your self then when you are trying to drink her in the sack for a night.

Am I promoting prostitution? No, I’m just giving you other options in a country where you have the choice on where to get sex.

Always remember, regardless of who you have sex with to always use protection. You never know who your partner was with before you so don’t take the chance with you live AIDS / HIV are out there and you never know who have it and who doesn’t.

But this is just my opinion!